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This is a difficult question to give a balanced answer to precisely because there is still debate about the g spot. If you were to ask a practicing family doctor about the g spot debate you might get one answer, if you ask a g spot sex activist you’d get a different answer, and if you were to ask a medical researcher who has done original research on female sexual anatomy, you’d get another answer.
The shortest answer to why is there a debate about the g spot is that there is still relatively little research and the research we have is relatively new. There is also no agreed upon definitions. The “g spot” isn’t a medically recognized term for any part of female anatomy. And even as a working concept, the whole notion of there being one “spot” doesn’t seem particularly useful. But the term g spot has taken hold in the general public, and many women talk about there being an area that is particularly sensitive and provides intense sexual excitement through stimulation. So medical researchers are left to debate what this subjective experience that many women have is, what the origin of the excitement is, and where it fits into the larger picture of female sexual anatomy and health.
A historian (professional or amateur) of medical research and gender might have a lot to say about why this debate is ongoing. Certainly there is a history of women having less of a voice when it comes to the research and the establishment of “facts” about women’s sexual health and even sexual anatomy. What is interesting about the g spot debate is that some of the early g spot research was inspired by the subjective, anecdotal reports of women, and was carried out in the hopes of explaining a phenomenon that was causing some women anxiety. In this way women’s personal experiences have influenced the research to a point.
But today there is a small g spot industry, books, videos, and products all designed to “help” women find their g spots. It is very possible that all these consumer goods are leading women to feel that they have to find their g spot, and have these mysterious g spot orgasms, and could, in fact, be adding to generalized sexual anxiety some women experience. There are some people who argue against the g spot and see it as more of a problem than it is worth.
If you are wondering why we can’t just all get a long, and you’re hoping for a point of mutual agreement, you may find it in terms like the female prostate and the urethral sponge. The urethral sponge, at least, is an accepted anatomical term, and the female prostate may soon also become an agreed upon term. Whether these areas are the site of sexual sensitivity, whether they are involved in the experience of female ejaculation, may always be a contention, but most people seem to agree that at least the anatomical structures exist, and we can go visit them when we like.
The first thing you should know is that we don’t know that much about sexual anatomy.
Compared with the kinds of detail knowledge we have already developed on things like our circulatory system, our cardiovascular system, and our nervous system, our knowledge of sexual anatomy and response is miniscule.
People are still debating the physical structures of internal genitalia. So, for example, medical students are often taught that the clitoris is a very small structure that is mostly near the surface of the skin, and only extends in the body a little. But others suggest that its structure is of significant size and it extends much further into the body than previously thought.
The next problem with answering the G-Spot question is that it is a name for a body part that the medical establishment has not yet taken on. So you can’t go to any medical textbook and see a picture of something called the gspot. This doesn’t mean that it isn’t there; it just means that it hasn’t been legitimized in the medical literature, yet.
There are many other reasons for the confusion, but let me give you a more practical answer to your question.
Whether scientists ever agree, and whether it makes it into a medical textbook, many women do report that stimulating a particular spot, which is most easily reached inside the vagina, is very pleasurable. Here’s a link to help you find this area usually called the g-spot.
But it is very likely that even if everyone agrees eventually that there is a g-spot, many women won’t find it pleasurable to have their G spot stimulated. The fact is that it is probably like any other part of the body in that some people will become aroused by having it stimulated, and others won’t.
Some people go wild when you nibble on their ears. Others will find that completely annoying and a sexual turn-off. The Gspot is probably just like that.
If you follow the instructions on finding your g spot , it’s a good way to start exploring, but if you can’t “find it” that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, it just means you’re sexual response is unique, which is something I hope all experts would agree on.
- Avoid performance pressure about the “magic spot”.People can become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I’ll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your “sexually self-actualized” belt.
- Turn yourself on.Any homework that starts with this is bound to be somewhat fruitful. The spongy area around the g-spot gets engorged with blood when you’re sexually aroused, so it is much easier to find and feel when you’re turned on.
- Get comfortable and find the g-spot area.Lie on your back, squat, or lie on your stomach. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you’re feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a “come hither” motion. When you’re up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina.
- Notice how the g-spot feels.The texture of the g-spot area will likely be noticeably different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina. When you’re aroused it can expand, so feel it at different times during your arousal to get familiar with its contours and sensitivity. The g-spot responds to pressure, so press down and pull forward using that “come hither” motion with your fingers.
- Explore the g-spot with toys.For some it can be awkward to stimulate the g-spot by hand. A g-spot vibrator or dildo can be a great helper in this. Apply a little lube to your toy, and insert it with the tip (if it’s curved) pointing up toward the top wall of your vagina. Work it in slowly, far enough (a couple of inches) so the tip is pressing against your g-spot.
- Experiment with pressure and motion.Some women will find pressure against the g-spot pleasurable, some women like the feeling vibration when a toy is pressing against the g-spot. Experiment and see if either feels good for you. For most women, the g-spot responds to firm pressure. In the beginning, use your toy as if you were trying to scratch an itch—don’t pull the toy all the way out, but use short strokes, applying firm pressure, against the g-spot.
- Vary the movements.A circular or back-and-forth motion may be necessary to get you started, but you might soon graduate to a more vigorous thrusting. If you’ve got a vibrator, try playing with the vibrations both on and off to see which you like better.
- Add clitoral stimulation to g-spot play.You’ll know you’re hitting the spot as you feel tingly sensations, the urge to pee, and an overall elevation in your arousal. When you feel the urge to come, stimulate your clitoris using your favorite method. Keep stroking your g-spot.
- Let go.With continued stimulation, you’ll eventually feel a sensation much like having to pee. This can be quite disconcerting at first, and has probably led plenty of women to abandon the process, but if you stick with it you’ll be in for a pleasant surprise. You may or may not ejaculate, but ejaculation is perfectly normal (and it’s not urine).
- If you don’t at first orgasm, try try again.
It can take several practice sessions before you notice any build up. Try varying your position, using a different toy, experimenting with breathing and kegel exercises (to strengthen your PC muscle), or having a partner help you. Because the g-spot is most responsive when aroused, you may also want to try stimulating it after you’ve had an orgasm. - Remember the ear lobe.Experimenting with the g-spot can be fun, and you never know what you’ll learn in the process. But try not to get hung up on this being a mind-blowing experience. If you’re playing around and it’s not doing anything for you, try something else, and know that there is nothing wrong with you, and what turns us all on is incredibly individual and unique.
gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg in 1944 and was so named in his honour.
In case you need to be remined, the G-Spot is supposedly a small
cushion of nerve endings located inside the vagina which when pressed
produces a whole new type of incredible orgasmic experiences.
The real fame of the G-Spot was in the era of 1982 when Beverly Whippie
unleashed the original G-Spot theory in a best selling book that sold
more than 600 000 copies.The release of the book brought about a whole
new torrent of books and guides about how to find the G-Spot with many
women claiming a new found sexual experience through discovering their
G-Spot, while millions of others became totally frustrated at not being
able to ever find this magical button.
Research Proves There Is No G-Spot.
Researchers based at King’s College in London recently performed
intensive research into the subject of the G-Spot and after they had
thoroughly researched over 1800 twin females, they concluded that there
is no evidence to prove that the G-Spot exists.
“If a female claims to have a G-Spot then it is only because she thinks
she has one.”
This is great news for thousands of men and women who have desperately
been investigating and trying to locate that magical spot. You are able
to stop now even though I am pretty sure that you quite enjoyed the
hours that you have spent exploring in an effort to locate the G-Spot.
The G-Spot is in the mind.
A while ago I found an interesting quote by a lady blogger who stated,
“The g-spot is in the ears of the lady and he who searches for it below
is wasting his time.”
Instead of spending time and money on hunting for something that does
not exist, rather spend time on things that really do exist and which
do count.
A survey of 1500 women conducted by the popular Physcology Today,
revealed that the vast majority of them preferred to have sex with a
man with a thicker penis.
71% of married women surveyed indicated that they wished that their
husbands had a bigger penis.
Start working towards what really counts!
With the above in mind, by simply concentrating on the more important
things in life that really count, you will achieve long lasting
happiness and sexual satisfaction.
Increasing your penis thickness is going to really supply the extra
pleasure that could lead to your lady finding that elusive G-Spot in
her mind.
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